03/24/2026
💖 Kim's Corner: My Guiding Stars – Bertha J. Flagg & Dr. Allene Demby Gayles
Today, as we continue to honor the phenomenal women who've illuminated our paths, I want to talk about two incredible members who truly shaped my early journey in AKA: Bertha J. Flagg and Dr. Allene Demby Gayles. These two women were my first graduate chapter mentors at Mu Xi Omega, and I am forever indebted to their wisdom and love.
Fresh out of college, I felt like I knew nothing. I still vividly remember my first committee meeting where I was asked to leave because my paperwork wasn't returned. I was so hurt, I sat in my car and just cried.
A few days later, a kind lady at the post office saw my key chain and asked if I was the new Sister in town who had come to the meeting. Shocked, I said yes and admitted I had lots of questions. This amazing woman, who I later learned was Charter President Bertha J. Flagg, told me her office was right upstairs, and to come see her when I was ready, documents in hand.
About an hour later, I walked through her door. She stopped everything, looked at me with a stunned face, and said, "I knew you would come, but I didn't think this quickly!" From that day on, she walked me through every single document, answered every question, and literally held my hand. She taught me so much about navigating our sisterhood.
Then there was Dr. Allene Demby Gayles. A graduate of my alma mater and from the same department, she became my "Mom away from home." Dr. Gayles knew everything and everybody! She was a professional and personal guide, even throwing me an engagement party. When I decided to enter my Ph.D. program, she was my steadfast advisor, connecting me with all the right people. She had a way of being both a mentor and a friend, even becoming friends with my own mom!
These two phenomenal women served as role models, surrogate mothers, and true friends. Both have gone on to be with the Lord, and not a day goes by that I don't think about their words of wisdom. I often wonder what they would think about my journey today. I miss them dearly, but their profound impact and unwavering support will forever live in my heart. Cara Payne Roberson
Who are the mentors in your life who left an indelible mark? Share their stories below! 👇
