Jessicah Travis Life Coaching

05/11/2026

Being their mama…
Being their Amma…
Being her daughter…

A true privilege.

05/01/2026

Dealing with a narcissist can be a full time job using all your energy resources with very little progress. I’m currently dealing with one in my life that I had vowed never to give energy to again. But circumstances happen and here we are once more.

There is one sure thing I can count on with a narcissist…they will lie.

They don’t care to know my truth or tell my story accurately. They dont care to know me as I am because that won’t keep them in control. Narcissists are the most insecure people and navigate their social world by exploiting others for their social gain. They believe their lies yet know they are lying too.

They are the victim and the martyr. They believe they are the smartest person in the room while feeling a level of insecurity that drives them to egregious manipulation.

I do not win the war of false stories with a narcissist. I can only stop offering them fuel. The more silent I become, the less I defend myself, and the more I reserve my energy for me, the smaller their fire gets.

I know it leaves room for others to believe their stories and think that I am someone that I am not. It’s hard to live with…the lies told of me. But I am protecting my peace, my healing and my family.

And for those who believe their stories without conversation and relationship with me…you are complicit to the gossip, judgment, and hurtfulness. You are believing lies, willingly. And I will reserve my story for humans unlike you.

10/20/2025

I’m still here. But I’m practicing what I’ve preached. I’m being present in every space I can be.

Pumpkins.
Afterschool pickups.
Endless talking from my backseat on the way home.
Hot chocolate before bed.
FaceTimes with bright-eyed babies.
Porch time with all the ones I cherish.
Long hours in my comfy chair learning the wonders of the world.

If i don’t remain present in these moments with all my senses aware, I fear I will get lost in the fret of these atrocities. My silence on a social platform does not reflect the weight of emotions I carry. I have so many words and thoughts that don’t quite seem adequate for what i feel. I don’t want to be another noisy opinion but instead I am rushing towards learning. Learn whatever I can so I am not the one who forms her thoughts and ideology on propaganda and fear. I’ve followed the fancy words, shame, guilt and religious piousness once before.

This time, my quietness is my power, not my suppression. My quietness is busy learning to stay present. My quietness is watching and learning. My quietness is preparing for the moment my quietness is no longer my power.

There is too much being said lately. Might we stop and just listen. Listen for the secrets to real wisdom, love without conditions, courage that crushes hate, and joy that keeps us focused on our why.

Maybe it’s the calm the builds the storm.

09/18/2025

04/20/2025

Our grands. Our hearts.

(And yes…i haven’t updated my sign. Busy with these joys.)

03/01/2025

12/26/2024

This year, I enjoyed Christmas from my couch (i caught the crud) but watching the magic of Christmas through a 5 year old is truly the best.

Our family and its traditions have evolved over the years all to encompass who we are today. We keep the traditions that feel nurturing and loving while letting go of the ones we have outgrown. Our family is still growing (in all of the ways) so each year we get the joy of celebrating what is.

Each year year gets better but not because it’s different and new. It gets better because the previous year shaped and carved depth in who WE are. This year gave us the experience of freedom. Free to love and be loved. We have learned to love wide over the years as a family but this year was about BEING loved. This experience came with both celebration and heartbreak. The journey of being loved came with cost and boundaries. But as a family we rose up stronger and deeper in love with each other. This year has been our most authentic year yet and we cherish it.

To know and be known is the greatest gift family can give each other. No conditions, no rules, no expectations. Just know each other…right where we are as we are. That’s love. And to protect that kind of love is hard work.

May you feel loved unconditionally and curiously. It’s the best adventure!

12/20/2024

It’s a lie. Solving the “problem” is an illusion to satisfying the overwhelm and stress that anxiety offers you. Anxiety is trying to tell you how the future will look IF you were needing to “survive”. Resolving the future of a perceived threat is only resolving something that hasn’t happened. It may give you a feeling of temporary security or safety but it hasn’t actually done anything for you yet. It’s an illusion of resolution.

If you continue to live in the future solving its problems, you will miss the power of changing the timeline today. Changing the future doesn’t happen by fighting the future battles. Changing the future happens by creating a new existence today. It ripples into your future resolving the worries of tomorrow. Can you see it? If you jump on your timeline today and watch it ripple forward, the future your anxiety warned you about starts to disappear and a new future is set in motion. So place your feet in today (step on your timeline) and create something new that your “anxiety future” doesn’t see coming. You will pull your mind out of survival mode (fight or flight) and fill your brain with pings of endorphins. It’s both chemical and mindset. Creating things isn’t something your fight or flight brain can do. Remember that solving problems and creation are two different experiences. If you want to reduce anxiety and looping thoughts of fear and stress, get present and create something!

A few ideas:
❄️Bake something that requires multiple steps and ingredients.
❄️Write something that expresses your feelings of today…poem, blog, mantra.
❄️Paint or draw
❄️Learn something new that enhances your holiday …napkin folding, making bows, table setting.
❄️Go into nature and design something from its elements.
❄️Remember that seemingly pointless “hobby” that felt like a waste of time? It has immense purpose! Start it up again.
❄️Create a list of all the things you can create from your uniqueness.

No matter how simple or complex your creation is, remember that creating is the point…not the product. Get curious and get creating! You might be amazed at what your soul wants to show you.

11/26/2024

Every new experience and every new learning expands our reality. Literally. We create new associations and understandings of how life works. We learn how we exist within this reality and find more possibilities for what our future can hold. Even when we stand at a zoo sign that we cannot read yet, we imprint our minds with new connections between language and our senses. This amazing 5 year old can’t read yet, but he knows the plaques have something to tell him. He knows there is something to learn. He called each sign and each statue along the trails a “treasure!” He had discovered something of value he had never encountered before. Funny thing about this…we saw black bears climbing trees above us and to Asher, that wasn’t the treasure. He had seen pictures of bears in trees before. But the signs with maps and words on a path that led to other signs with maps and words…well…that was an adventure! Curiosity and mystery have their fingers entwined around treasures!

This has challenged me to reimagine what a treasure is. What if a treasure is a new finding that holds value, adventure and learning embraced by curiosity and mystery? How would that change things? My world just flew wide open!

Go find treasures everywhere! It might just expand every fiber of your being!

11/21/2024

Rant ahead. I can’t stay quiet any longer.
I’m getting really sick of “you” professing a loving god and “sharing the good news” when all you bring is judgement, disrespect and cruelty. The trans community is hurting deeply because of self righteous people like you. My family is hurting because of you.

Why the f**k do you care if someone changes their name?

Why the f**k do you think your refusal to use their chosen name is up for your approval?

Why the f**k do you think intentionally using their dead name will “turn them back to god”?

Why the f**k do you think love comes in the form of judgment and insult?

Why the f**k do you think it’s any of your concern?

The trans community is first rejected by those closest to them. The ones who should be loving them. That distain gets passed around your prayer chains and bible studies to bolster your bigotry and fuel your self righteousness. You pass that “peace” from community to community until you have affected su***de rates, laws and culture. Maybe you’re proud of sharing THE truth or doing gods work but you smell of hateful stench. I’m tired of believing the best in you because when the best of the humans stand in front of you, you can’t see the goodness of god. You only see a reflection of your own self hate…and you hate what you see. You judge the least of them and miss the good news altogether. They learned how to love themselves…and you just can’t stand that. You see, the message of Jesus was went to free you and you have found a way for it to bo***ge you.

I pity you. I do not emphasize with your mission to save the world. You are lost in your own “salvation”. I hope one day, for your sake, you will feel loved the way they now love themselves.

In the meantime, you are dangerous.