05/09/2026
“Stanford taught us to go for it. To not wait for permission, but to start creating now.”
Megan Calfas, ’18, MA ’20, and Carly Steyer, ’20, are the co-directors and co-producers of Crushing, a live storytelling show exploring the messy, complicated, and deeply human experience of romantic love, onstage Sept. 10–12 at American Conservatory Theater's Strand Theater. Tickets here: https://www.act-sf.org/whats-on/limited-engagements/crushing
Now in its third run, Crushing has grown from sold-out shows in New York and San Francisco to a partnership with A.C.T. Across its three runs, the show’s casts and creative teams have included ten Stanford alumni. The show is executive produced by actress Rosario Dawson.
For Megan, an English major who graduated with Honors in the Arts, and Carly, who studied film with a focus on screenwriting, the show builds on creative paths and relationships that began on the Farm.
“Stanford gave us the diverse and fiercely talented peer group who co-direct, star in, design, embolden, and enrich this project,” Carly said. “This show really began with myself, Megan, and our co-creator Natachi Onwuamaegbu (‘22). We share work ethic and vision, a willingness to weather the late nights and long hours, and we want to laugh as we do it. All of that was built on friendships that started back in college.”
Megan sees a little bit of Stanford in the way they make the show, too.
“Carly and I are both former Stanford Sierra Camp staff directors, and we often joke that putting on a show is just like running Camp,” she said. “It takes tenacity, teamwork, creativity, and trust.”
And the result has become bigger than the show itself.
“Every year after the show, our audience sticks around to keep talking and sharing stories of their own,” Megan said. “They tell us they feel a little more alive.”
The Stanford alumni of Crushing:
· Megan Calfas, ’18, MA ’20
· Mia Diawara, ’15, MA ’17
· Harriett Jernigan, PhD ’98
· Peter Litzow, ’18
· Natachi Onwuamaegbu, ’22
· Sam Sax, Stegner Fellow, 2018–20
· Drew Semler, ’20
· Dani Stagger, ’19
· Carly Steyer, ’20
· Shameeka Wilson, PhD Candidate
📸: Colby Riley, Eurica Yu, and Abby Brooke, ’17