I'm A Warrior Woman

07/09/2022

This is actually a really good reminder that a lot of people advertise their lives on their car.....

Not a good idea.

An important safety reminder!

14/08/2022

This is good advice. Uber's are not always the safest options.

Perspective,… Be safe out there!!

19/01/2022

I love this one. My Dad was in the Defence Force so therefore I have an assumption that I know how to handle myself. I often wonder if women who say this have really thought it through?. And I mean no offense when I say that.

If my Dad was a neurosurgeon, would you hand me a scalpel and let me loose on your brain?

If my Brother was a Pilot would you expect me to crash land a Antonov An-225? (world’s biggest plane - trust me they are a monster of a plane).

Probably not. So how is this different? And why do women think that is enough training to get by? This always floors me.

As a soldier you get to carry a reasonably high powered weapon into a War Zone. You get to carry about 750 rounds and it is with you when you shower, sleep, or eat.

We are assuming here that your Dad (brother, Cousin etc) has seen active duty. Many soldiers go through their whole career and never set foot into a war zone. AND they are men - built entirely differently to a woman and if they taught you how to fight as in a fist fight - that should be used as a last resort. So the whole point is a bit mute.

My Dad fought in Korea but he never taught me how to fight. I think he had seen enough violence to last him a lifetime. He did speak about tactics to me. I am sure, looking back at my childhood that some tactics rubbed off, which is probably why when I went off soldiering I was really good at tactics.

12/01/2022

Did you know that 96% of women will not do a Self Defence Course and the majority of those that do are under 30 OR have done the Course through work.

What do these 96% do? Well, for a lot of us we hope that we never come across a situation that needs us to think outside the square or offer up any kind of defence.

We live in pretty good neighbourhoods. Have an established routine, which is rarely disrupted so life looks nice and stable. Let’s face it - that is two of the major things that Humans crave - safety and stability.

The other problem with traditional Self Defence Courses is that you have to get in close to your assailant in order to fight him off and for many women that in itself is pretty scary. Who in their right mind wants to get in close to someone who scares you? You also tend to learn a “routine”. You move here, he moves there. If you watch some of these routines on YouTude it looks more like a dance than Self Defence. Problem with that is that in real life there are no rules and it can get kind of grubby.

Finally, all Self Defence Courses are put together by men. The clear and obvious problem with that is a Man has never worn a woman’s body. How the heck can they know what it feels like? Our centre of gravity is different for a start.

05/01/2022

It will never happen to me

This is one of those cases of ‘I wish I had a dollar for every time I hear this”. I would own Fiji and the 300+ islands associated with it. We all think it won’t happen to us. I won’t get Cancer. I am a good driver - I won’t have an accident. But in fact we have very little control over what happens to us. You can be the best driver in the world and still have some idiot come around the corner too fast and hit you. You can’t control that.

I have said, for the last 15 years, you can not Google looking for advice on Self Preservation as a situation unfolds. You need to know what you need to know before a situation is on top of you. It’s the reason why soldiers spend a lot of their time running practice drills. Your reactions need to become instinctive.

If I can…. Many years ago my music teacher’s neighbour had a heart attack and luckily (for him) she had just finished a First Aid Course. She recalled the story by saying the neighbour's wife was running up and down the fenceline yelling for help (because she didn’t have a clue what to do).

So my neighbour (who was not a little woman) somehow went over the fence and found the neighbour not breathing and started CPR. She was pretty sure she didn’t get it exactly right but her actions saved a life. She had to tell the wife to ring for an Ambulance as the woman was not making sense. As my music teacher put it…. Having the knowledge of what to do gave her the confidence to do something.

The same goes for Self Preservation - once you are in the middle of something you need the information, well before you find yourself in the center of it.

22/12/2021

I have anxiety - I’m an expert

I don’t say this often but OMG… My daughter sent me a woman on Tik Tok who has, to this date, had 29 100 hits. She is showing us her expert advice on what to do if you find someone in your bedroom.

I am sorry but I have never seen anything so full of ill advice. From where I am standing it was actually painful to watch. At one stage, she picks up a baseball bat from under the bed. Then she drops it.

She advises that you should ROLL into the bathroom. (this is the OMG part- ROLL) I am sorry but I am pretty sure that 99.8% of women could not roll anywhere without causing an injury. Let alone down a narrow corridor and on tiles AND it is not in any way the fastest way to travel. No one can roll at 20 miles an hour.

Remember: You have some strange guy in the house watching you roll. Maybe the tactic is that you will have him on the floor in fits of laughter.

Why in God’s name would you get on the ground and roll??? It gets better though.

When she is in the bathroom she admits that she has no way out as the window is a sealed unit.

Her advice is coming at you with no other reason than she has anxiety and she, in her wisdom, thinks that this is all good advice. And now, unfortunately, there could be a fair percentage of that 29 100 views that also agreed with her and all because they have no real education to see just how stupid and dangerous her advice is.

This rates as a high 9 on my “annoyance at the stupidity of others” scale. She has no real experience to share and her “advice” may end up getting someone killed.

It is the reason why I have spent years perfecting what I teach. There are always so many variables to what can happen and what can go wrong (and by the same token what can go right).

I only hope she is like most on Tik Tok and seen as a bit of a giggle instead of being taken seriously.

15/12/2021

I’ll go in fighting.

I hear this one a lot and it is usually the reason for not wanting an education in Self Preservation. “Oh, if someone comes at me, they had better look out.” (or something like that).
I feel very sad for the Ladies that say this for three reasons. Firstly, I can guarantee that this individual has never been in a situation where they tested their confidence and therefore they have no idea if they can handle the discomfort of going into a physical fight.

Secondly, they are assuming that it will be a one on one encounter…. They have not thought about coming around the corner and finding 3 iffy guys or waking up to find 2 blokes ransacking the house.

Thirdly, the most dangerous thing is that in this encounter, if you are overpowered you have lost everything. You have gone in all guns blazing and now the ammunition bucket is empty. There is no coming back from that.

You have lost any advantage you could have had and now you are playing the role of victim.

08/12/2021

I have a Taser

From an Aussies point of view where we don’t have access to a Taser, basically the only people with one is our Police Service… But my question to this is always, “Where do you keep this Taser?” And the answer is often a bit of a giggle….

Most often they are in a bedroom draw or in a handbag. Just how big is your handbag? If it is like most women's it could fit the Titantic in there. In a panic can you grab your Taser within 3 seconds or will it take you 3 years to remove all the lipsticks and tissues and bits of paper to get the thing out?

If it is in a drawer in your bedroom and you are confronted in a carpark. Not very helpful. If you are in your house having your only “weapon” in your bedroom, that may in fact, send you in the wrong direction in order to going and getting it.

I don’t have a Taser, as I say I don’t wear the right uniform to own one… But nor do I think that I only have one option of weaponry. In fact, there are things I can use as weapons laying all over my house and they are all normal everyday household things.
Going into a situation thinking "I have a Taser" and you see that as your only weapon leaves you wide open.

01/12/2021

Having the dog outside.

I stumbled across a woman who is having trouble with kids from the neighborhood who are entering her property and damaging property. There was loads of advice (most of it not good advice) and most of it was that she should leave her dog outside to “sort it out”.

Honestly this is the worst advice EVER. A dog outside up against a gang of kids is a dead dog. Which in itself is very sad but it then leaves you in your house very exposed….

A dog inside the house is by far your best security system ever created. A dog inside will let you know where the kids are walking around the house. A dog inside is going to be standing under the window if someone is breaking in.

Interesting fact: Your little toy dog or that useless bouncy lunatic is only one gene away from a Wolf and sometimes they pull something out of the back door and become something that looks like a Wolf. Don’t dismiss that little yap yap.

My dogs sleep on my bed. I sleep pretty soundly but when they lift their heads up - I am awake. I would never have my best mobile security systems outside. Out there they are on their own But then....so am I.

01/12/2021

I have 5 000 FB Followers - I must be an expert

At one stage I had a total of over 220,000 followers across a number pf pages. I am not saying this to impress more to say that if I can do it with my limited techy techy skills then anyone can come up with a following.

But I quite intentionally cut the numbers of my followers down to a more reasonable number.

In recent times I see a number of complete unknowns in my industry, who have a large FB following and who claim to be experts in keeping you safe.

We have fallen into the Social Media trap of looking to see how big the following is and thinking that follower numbers = quality of advice.

Don’t worry we have all done this. Hollywood checks out potential actors and their social media followings. Often those with a bigger audience get the job…

We are dealing with a subject that truly is life and death here so you want to be listening to someone who has walked the walk and knows the types of “Talk” that is needed for every possible variate of each scenario.

Anyone can buy a large following. Not everyone can give good advice.

26/07/2021

I know I have been really quite in here and I am sorry about that. Just not enough hours in the day....

But I have a bit of a favour to ask you all....
I am steadily working on putting together the most amazing Courses because my aim is to improve the safety of women all around the world. And as such I am putting together a questionaire and it needs a Title.

Which of these grabs your attention the most:

The quick thinking, practical, confident women.

How to become a modern day Warrior Woman

Or

Refusing to be apprehensive.

Or if you have a suggestion please share. I would love to know your thoughts.
Thank you
Naomi Wilson