08/07/2024
I’m a movie lover. I watch them for the dialogues. Good movies with excellent dialogues excite me. I can name a few movies with outstanding scripts, and one that stands out for me is Game of Thrones—(at least before the writers ruined season 8, which I’m yet to forgive them for 😠😠).
Anyhoos, in the series, one of my favorite dialogues happens between an untrustworthy guy called Littlefinger and a girl named Sansa. Littlefinger was infamous for his conniving and crafty ways, and no one trusted him.
In one particular scene, he told Sansa that his survival from his days as a boy from a non-prominent home to sitting on the small council, with very close proximity to power, stemmed from his innate ability to adapt to anything.
In his advice to her, he said, “Everyone is your enemy. Everyone is your friend. Every possible series of events is happening at once. Live that way, and nothing will surprise you. Everything that happens will be something you’ve seen before.”
I couldn’t help but muse at the piece of wisdom he had unleashed. Simply put, he advises people to have zero expectations in life. Expect anything at any time. Have no commitments, no expectations; just live life the way it comes.
Your friends today may be your enemies tomorrow and vice versa. People will leave you, and others will come into your life. Those who praise you today will crucify you tomorrow, and those you didn’t expect to betray you will be the first to stab you. C’est la vie. Such is life.
Things change. People change. Everything changes. The universe is in flux, energy reinventing itself constantly. Accepting that fact will give you adversity intelligence, such that if the rug is suddenly pull from beneath your feet, you will survive.
When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be. Living without expectations doesn't mean that you're denying your desires. It just means that you're open to all outcomes.
