26/03/2016
IS HE A KEEPER OR A PLAYER?
The romantic nights, the sweet talks at the hidden places were lovers meet, the valentine’s day romance. Chitzy and wale were what you would call ‘ the perfect couple’ . there were so over each other. “He is the best thing that has ever happened to me” said chitzy to dani her best friend.
A few weeks after… How then could it turn out so wrong? Why did he have to dump me over another girl? Why did he have to cheat on me with my best friend? What did i do wrong? I can’t believe i ever loved someone like that. So all the ‘i love you’ , the sweet talks, the caring attitude he displayed was just to get in between my legs!. I should never have trusted him… all guys are the same; FLIRTS!
One of the most puzzling questions young ladies are dying to know the answer to is “how do I know if he truly loves me or if he would cheat on me over the next thing on skirt?” this article may not actually give you the answer that you seek but it will certainly keep you from falling into the wrong hands.
All playboys or keepers no matter how good they are, can always be identified (though not quite easily). How? Because certain characters, expressions, lifestyle give them away. Here are some ways you can know for certain he is a PLAYER:
1. He can unhook a bra in 2 seconds flat:
this is one sure sign that he is a pro in the art of coaxing ladies. “Practice makes perfect" it has become like a second nature of him to remove any obstacle that might slow things down along the way. He would probably be multi-tasking while doing this too.
Looking into your eyes and saying some sweet nothings while his hands effortlessly do the real talking.
2. His attitude changes, even a little immediately ‘after’:
the most critical moment to know whether he is a cheat or not is immediately ‘after’ (for those of you already having an intimate relationship). Be very observant. While most men who really like you would still want to hold you, cuddle and caress you, a player’s behavior at that instant would change, even slightly. He might pretend and continue the act but he can’t hide it. What he feels at that moment is a mild explicable bout of irritation (disgust) that he even feels guilty about. You only have a small chance to observe this, since he would return to normal after a few minutes.
3. You don’t meet his family and friends/they don’t call you by name:
“all guys like to show off their girl” or so they say. But when he never introduces you to his family or introductions are brief. Well, girlfriend I think you are just another chapter in his book.
Even more telling is if his friends are quite friendly, considerate and fun to be around, but don’t seem to remember your name and might even have a pet name for you instead. It’s quite simple really; it gets more difficult for them to memorize all ‘Chris’ girlfriends as time goes by and would not want to commit a faux de pas by calling you a wrong name.
4. He guards his phone like an ATM card:
we get that his the private type, but when his phone reminds you of prison break with passwords everywhere even in his message box and he still watches you with his side eyes when you are just harmlessly playing with his phone, Watch out! Gal especially when he keeps cutting his incoming calls.
Whenever a guy has 10,000 models on his facebook account that he has never met, he is definitely the kind of guy that would go for your pretty friends.
5. He forgets those little details of your past discussion:
a rule, the player has a couple of tried and tested stories complete with backgrounds, as well as scripted conversations he uses with prospects. When you delve away
from his prepared scripts however, it gets more difficult to stay consistent when next you see him. “Lola told me he has two sisters. No, that was Lara or could it have been Lauren?
6. when he’s with you, he’s all there but when he isn’t…
this type of player is a master in the art of compartmentalization. Let me explain. You see him on Monday, and he’s everything you want in your guy; caring, endearing and all the other ‘ing’ words, then he leaves and you don’t hear another word from him. You see again a week later and it’s like a switch somewhere came back on. Babe, this kind guy na original gbege and he can manage multiple long distance relationship and still stay sharp and calm
7. He is not at all shy to come on to you sexually:
it’s all nice and sexy for a guy to be confident and a bit self-assured. But when he oozes confidence and isn’t at all shy to come on to you sexually, this is a big red flag. You see no matter how friendly and confident we guys normally are, when we really like a girl, we exhibit a certain kind of shyness or you can say nervousness in trying not to screw things up. Men who make sexual jokes or comments even before they see you naked are among the do**he bag category.
In conclusion, these bits of advice will help you steer clear of hunters but it will not help you avoid making mistakes in your relationship. The only principle capable of guaranteeing a successful relationship is to seek for the originator of love and that is JESUS”. God is love and only in him can you find true love (true love exists joor!!!)
