Love and Gifts

Love and Gifts Godly & biblical insights for you as you journey from single to relationships and marriage.

The December Lagos Gave MeChapter One. December 23rd.Mide arrived in Lagos at exactly 4:10 PM (WAT) on a direct flight f...
30/12/2025

The December Lagos Gave Me

Chapter One.

December 23rd.

Mide arrived in Lagos at exactly 4:10 PM (WAT) on a direct flight from Heathrow to Murtala Muhammed International Airport.

Seven hours flight. Clean route. No stops. No delays.

From the airplane window, the city looked both familiar and strange. There was no harmattan this year. No dusty hush, no cool breath to soften her arrival. Only heat.

Thick, unfiltered heat that clung to her skin like a warning.

Inside the arrival hall, December announced itself.

There are different Accents competing against one another. British, Canadian, Australian, and even the Caribbean. People had come from everywhere. Designer suitcases rolled beside taped boxes. Winter jackets hung awkwardly on bodies already sweating. Influencers livestreamed. Families collapsed into loud embraces. Friends hugged like time zones had bruised them.

Whatever Lagos had sold the world, it was working.

Mide stood still, observing. This was not just an airport. It was a threshold, where restraint was shed and Nigerians returned to themselves.



She had come for Detty December, yes. But also for subtler reasons she didn’t say aloud. Family. Closure. Warm laughter. And perhaps, if the city was generous, love. Lagos had a reputation: it either emptied you or overwhelmed you with gifts.

At thirty-two, UK-based and carefully independent, Mide had learned order. London had taught her schedules, polite silences, affection that moved cautiously. Lagos had no interest in caution. Lagos believed in excess.

Immigration moved slowly. Lines blurred. Instructions changed mid-sentence. Some travelers passed without effort; others were stalled by issues that appeared on demand.

When it was her turn, the officer barely looked up.

“How long are you staying?”

She answered. He flipped through her passport. Paused too long, then stamped it hard and slid it back.

Next!

Relief came, but it was thin. The airport had not welcomed her. It had tested her.

Customs, surprisingly, were kind this time around. Her bags arrived intact. She was cleared. For a brief, foolish moment, Mide wondered if Lagos had softened.

Outside, the Airport corrected her.

Drivers shouted names. Relatives waved frantically. Heat pressed down harder. Traffic beyond the gates stood unmoving, as though Lagos itself was deciding what to do with her.

Two weeks earlier, still in London, she had messaged Joshua, a childhood friend turned reliable constant. He promised to arrange a pickup.

Her phone buzzed.

Joshua:

Welcome. The Driver is on the way. Just small traffic.

Small traffic? That's Lagos’s most generous lie.

Ten minutes passed. Then twenty. Then forty.

When the car finally arrived, the driver smiled.

“Madam, hope you’re not tired.”

Mide laughed softly. She had no answer for that.

The drive home stretched into two and a half hours. Traffic thickened in layers at Ikeja, Maryland, and Anthony. Each pause deliberate, as though Lagos was flipping through her passport, checking stamps, deciding if she still belonged.

Outside her window, buses forced themselves into impossible lanes. Hawkers threaded between cars selling plantain chips, water, Gala, and phone chargers. People in public buses leaned out of windows to laugh and argue.

“December is madness,” the driver said. “Too many people.”

He wasn’t wrong.

Every year, Lagos swelled with returnees and seekers. A city already carrying millions took on more concerts, weddings, beach parties, Detty December ambition. Roads buckled. Commutes doubled. Chaos became seasonal.

Mide leaned back.

She had traded London’s order for Lagos’s disorder. Predictable trains for unpredictable roads. Somewhere between gridlock and laughter, irritation and awe, she felt it settle into her bones.

This was not inconvenience.

This was initiation.

Her phone buzzed again.

Still in traffic? Lagos just wants to greet you properly.

She smiled, watching brake lights glow ahead like a river of embers.

Perhaps love, like Lagos, never arrived on time.

And perhaps some journeys neea delay to feel real.

Watch out for Chapter 2.

Going on a first date or even any other date is exciting, but let’s be real—it can also feel like a high-stakes mission....
13/02/2025

Going on a first date or even any other date is exciting, but let’s be real—it can also feel like a high-stakes mission.

What should you say especially if you’ve just been on a talking stage? How do you avoid awkward silences? Who should order first? And most importantly—how do you secure a visa for a second date?

I used to be an Abuja-based but work brought me to Lagos, which means I’ve had my fair share of dating adventures across cities in Nigeria.

Some dates went great for me. Others? Let's just say Epic failure! But through my experiences across Abuja and Lagos, I’ve figured some things out and I've decided to share my wisdom on navigating your first date in my new book! 📖

What You’ll Learn:
✅ How to prepare for a date (and avoid rookie mistakes)
✅ The new generation's unspoken rules of a dinner date 🍽️
✅ How to keep the conversation flowing
✅ Payment etiquette—who pays and why it matters
✅ How to make sure your date looks forward to seeing you again!

Valentine’s day is here, please follow anyone to Sheraton, Nicon Luxury, Radisson Blu or Transcorp tomorrow without prior information.

The Book it's FREE for now, so hurry up and get a copy.

🔗 Get your copy here:
https://selar.com/s34d6o
https://selar.com/s34d6o
https://selar.com/s34d6o

Tag a friend who NEEDS this.

You Are Worthy of Love🪴🌻

This is an unsolicited reminder for singles. We are in the last quarter of the year, you Are Worthy of Love. ❤️🥰
07/09/2024

This is an unsolicited reminder for singles.

We are in the last quarter of the year, you Are Worthy of Love. ❤️🥰

You know it’s early to assumed that the hatred of Joseph half brothers was solely because of his dreams, but Nope. The B...
06/09/2024

You know it’s early to assumed that the hatred of Joseph half brothers was solely because of his dreams, but Nope. The Bible says the dreams only made them hate him the more.

This means that hatred was already in motion and that dream was just an accelerator.



If you ever dig further you will realize that the major pioneers who led the ravishment on Joseph were the children of an unloved woman by her husband.

When a relationship or marriage is loveless it generates its own bitterness. And many times the children of an unloved woman will pick up the gauntlet and take the battle into the family.

Loveless marriages produce consequences. If you’re single, I’ll advise you don’t go into a loveless betrothal.



By all means, decide to be a monogamist. You can love just one person with all your life, mind and strength.

Having multiple girlfriends or boyfriends at your prime age is just another way of doing an internship to become a full-stack polygamist.

And the issue with polygamous boyfriends is they will always have a favorite chic. Go to Ìsàlè Eko.

When Jacob gave Joseph the coat of many colours he was in effect telling the other children- “Joseph is my real first son and my favorite because l love his mum. For the rest of you, I never loved una mama. ☹️



You Are Worthy of Love. 🌻

06/09/2024

The irony of life is that those who withhold affection require it the most.
🌻🌹

04/09/2024

Being in a happy relationship is way better than being single. 🥳🌻

Being Single is ONLY better than being in a toxic relationship. 💔❤️‍🩹

Address

NG
Abuja

Opening Hours

Monday 09:00 - 17:00
Saturday 09:00 - 17:00

Telephone

07062900105

Alerts

Be the first to know and let us send you an email when Love and Gifts posts news and promotions. Your email address will not be used for any other purpose, and you can unsubscribe at any time.

Contact The University

Send a message to Love and Gifts:

Share