03/15/2022
Growing up around here, I didn’t get why people would get engaged and married so quick. How did you know you wanted to marry some rando after only knowing them half a year, even less in some cases? I thought all the 'Provo couples' were crazy.
Well, I guess I'm going to have to eat my words, because I got engaged in January to someone I met last July. I'm officially the Utah Valley stereotype, and I couldn't be happier.
It's not all sunshine, kittens and rainbows, though, and I think most engaged couples would tell you that. I'm in my last semester at UVU, so I've had to balance wedding planning while keeping my eye on my grades, and it's been a tightrope of emotions. Sure, it's wonderful to talk with family and friends about decorations, outfits, and catering, but it's also hard to plan the party of a lifetime when my professor is still expecting that reading response on a Monday night. It's great to work on an essay I'm passionate about, but sometimes I'd rather be with my fiancé.
Between all the bridesmaids, late assignments, boutonnieres and canvas announcements, I can get overwhelmed. I've lost count of the times I've cried into my boyfriends' shoulder because of stress. But hey, it's times like these that show me they’re the one.
Being a q***r couple in the valley has its own challenges too. I'd never felt more like the elephant in the room than when we hold hands in public. People think they're pretty sneaky with their glares, but they're really not. It can make date nights more tiring than anything if all the other diners at Wingers are staring at you.
At the same time, though, I've felt love and support from unexpected places, and have had to break down my own assumptions and stereotypes as people have offered love, support, and good old fashioned wedding advice. It's humbling, seeing people show up for us who I thought were going to be unkind or cold. It's allowed me to really think about how I jump to conclusions, and how to still protect me and the ones I love from hate whilst also being patient and optimistic.
Because, after all, it looks like the best things in life are the ones that prove me wrong, aren't they?
(Corey Boren is a Creative Writing Major minoring in History. When not in class, he'll be found tutoring in the Writing Center.)