10/28/2026
Have you ever said yes to pet-sitting or hosting a sleepover when you really wanted to say no? You’re not alone.
A recent study found that telling people they’re free to refuse doesn’t make saying no feel any easier. Giving them the actual words does. In this case, the words were a simple “I’d rather not.”
So next time you ask a friend for a favor, try offering the words, not just the permission. Their “yes” will feel more like a real choice.
Read more on our Evidence-based Living blog on Psychology Today:
What actually makes someone feel free to say no? Research finds a script helps people feel more comfortable refusing a request, and more confident saying "yes."